On Sep 3, 2009, at 11:01 AM, Sleepy Texter wrote:

I got a 4:30am text from this girl I went out with last night say­ing how much she wants to see me tonight. There’s really two things that bug me about it.

  1. It’s 4:30am.
  2. She knows I’m busy tonight.

Is she being sweet or crazy?”

Sleepy Tex­ter

Sleepy Tex­ter,


There are def­i­nitely aspects about this that could be flat­ter­ing. The eager­ness to see you again is a plus. Your two con­cerns do def­i­nitely war­rant atten­tion, though.

Eager­ness can be split into two sub-divisions: enthu­si­asm and anx­i­ety. Enthu­si­asm is won­der­ful and healthy. Anx­i­ety is over­bear­ing and con­sum­ing. Which one this is depends on how much time lapsed between say­ing “good­night” and 4:30am.

Her ask­ing to see you even though she knows you’re busy, on it’s own, could be seen as her being cute. Cute­ness, how­ever, can lose it’s lus­ter at 4:30am—It’s a unique hour. There are few things in life that war­rant a 4:30am text and this is not one of them. She could eas­ily have waited until a more decent hour.

You’re right to be wary and I would pro­ceed with cau­tion. This may very well be a fluke, but some­thing tells me that she might have a touch of the crazies.

Just my $0.02
Julius Pleasar

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