Although I am not making this inquiry on behalf of myself, I am in fact posing as myself asking this question for a friend who is asking as herself. My question is this:
Is it acceptable to take an 863-mile trip to visit a friend that I just met a week ago and realized was my BFF at first sight, when perhaps I should spend my time off getting my shit together at home and preparing for the insurmountable crap I will have to deal with when my vacation is over? Is it totally unreasonable to leave at the drop of a hat to explore an opportunity to hang out with my new buddy and actually relax and have fun on my vacation? I would like to think that a vacation should be a vacation, but at the same time I’m inclined to stay at home and get crackalackin’ on some work to maintain my sanity. What do you think?
Also, what if my new friend is a total genius and quite fascinating, and I kind of want to go through his medicine cabinets and fridge and sock drawer to learn more about him when he’s not looking? This might be the only opportunity I have to do these things, and I can learn an incredible amount of stuff based on the medicine cabinet alone so it could be pretty important.
A Dude Disguised As A Dude Playing Another Dude
Is it acceptable? Why, of course! The thing about life that we all should keep in mind is that it’s for living. I would not have had half the adventures I’ve had if it weren’t for spontaneity. It’s good to take a chance, to live for today. There is nothing unreasonable with the notion of exploring opportunity.
That’s not to say, though, that it’s fine to live with reckless abandon. We have a responsibility to both ourselves and to others. There is, indeed, a time for work and a time for play. We must be sure that we, ourselves, are prepared and that we don’t leave others with a mess. There is very much a karmic balance with business and pleasure.
Moderation and compromise are two things we should always have in mind. That being said, why not do both? Plan for a shorter trip and enjoy the vacation you deserve. Utilize the rest of the time preparing for the onslaught of reality that is just around the bend. Time is a valuable commodity that should be spent wisely. Splitting it between business and pleasure will feed both parts of your sanity.
The thing about opportunities is that they present themselves more often than we think. Recognizing these moments and taking advantage of them when the time is right is a talent that takes time. Life is not always all-or-nothing. There are many chances for many things and it is not necessarily the end of the world if we miss them the first time around.
But why go through the trouble of a secretive investigation? I suppose there might be a thrill in secrecy and being spytacular, but is an invasion of privacy necessary? That just brings about an incorrect method of learning about someone as it could, very easily, lead to assumption. A better route would be to ask any and all questions you might have. Immediate openness is a great foundation. You might learn a few things from snooping, but you won’t get the whole story unless you ask.
Just my $0.02