On Aug 7, 2009, at 1:02 AM, Dude wrote:

Although I am not mak­ing this inquiry on behalf of myself, I am in fact pos­ing as myself ask­ing this ques­tion for a friend who is ask­ing as her­self. My ques­tion is this:

Is it accept­able to take an 863-mile trip to visit a friend that I just met a week ago and real­ized was my BFF at first sight, when per­haps I should spend my time off get­ting my shit together at home and prepar­ing for the insur­mount­able crap I will have to deal with when my vaca­tion is over? Is it totally unrea­son­able to leave at the drop of a hat to explore an oppor­tu­nity to hang out with my new buddy and actu­ally relax and have fun on my vaca­tion? I would like to think that a vaca­tion should be a vaca­tion, but at the same time I’m inclined to stay at home and get crack­alackin’ on some work to main­tain my san­ity. What do you think?

Also, what if my new friend is a total genius and quite fas­ci­nat­ing, and I kind of want to go through his med­i­cine cab­i­nets and fridge and sock drawer to learn more about him when he’s not look­ing? This might be the only oppor­tu­nity I have to do these things, and I can learn an incred­i­ble amount of stuff based on the med­i­cine cab­i­net alone so it could be pretty important.

A Dude Dis­guised As A Dude Play­ing Another Dude


Is it accept­able? Why, of course! The thing about life that we all should keep in mind is that it’s for liv­ing. I would not have had half the adven­tures I’ve had if it weren’t for spon­tane­ity. It’s good to take a chance, to live for today. There is noth­ing unrea­son­able with the notion of explor­ing opportunity.

That’s not to say, though, that it’s fine to live with reck­less aban­don. We have a respon­si­bil­ity to both our­selves and to oth­ers. There is, indeed, a time for work and a time for play. We must be sure that we, our­selves, are pre­pared and that we don’t leave oth­ers with a mess. There is very much a karmic bal­ance with busi­ness and pleasure.

Mod­er­a­tion and com­pro­mise are two things we should always have in mind. That being said, why not do both? Plan for a shorter trip and enjoy the vaca­tion you deserve. Uti­lize the rest of the time prepar­ing for the onslaught of real­ity that is just around the bend. Time is a valu­able com­mod­ity that should be spent wisely. Split­ting it between busi­ness and plea­sure will feed both parts of your sanity.

The thing about oppor­tu­ni­ties is that they present them­selves more often than we think. Rec­og­niz­ing these moments and tak­ing advan­tage of them when the time is right is a tal­ent that takes time. Life is not always all-or-nothing. There are many chances for many things and it is not nec­es­sar­ily the end of the world if we miss them the first time around.

But why go through the trou­ble of a secre­tive inves­ti­ga­tion? I sup­pose there might be a thrill in secrecy and being spy­tac­u­lar, but is an inva­sion of pri­vacy nec­es­sary? That just brings about an incor­rect method of learn­ing about some­one as it could, very eas­ily, lead to assump­tion. A bet­ter route would be to ask any and all ques­tions you might have. Imme­di­ate open­ness is a great foun­da­tion. You might learn a few things from snoop­ing, but you won’t get the whole story unless you ask.

Just my $0.02
Julius Pleasar

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