If two girls make out at Rollercon, is it cheating?
I am a “heteroflexible” derby girl in a solid, longtime relationship with an awesome non-derby dude. My derby friends say it would be totally cool if I were to swap some Mai Tai-laced spit with a skater — but only at Rollercon.
However, my boyfriend strongly disagrees — not even if he gets to watch.
I’ve been to Rollercon and wasn’t even tempted to get down with anyone, and I have no plans to in the future. But what’s your take on this controversial issue?
Heteroflexible,
Allow me to propose the following scenario: If your boyfriend makes out with other girls at RollerCon—or anywhere else for that matter—would you consider that cheating?
Monogamy is monogamy is monogamy regardless of gender, location, time of day, day of the week, cosmic plane, planetary alignment, et cetera. The notion that certain circumstances would warrant the acceptability of infidelity in the midst of a monogamous relationship is absolutely ludicrous.
Now, if he (or anyone’s partner for that matter) had been okay with the scenario proposed or if the relationship were open, I would say to feel free to play some tonsil hockey. That’s a completely different scenario altogether. What makes it so different is that the situation is already understood.
The idea that “it’s okay at RollerCon” or “oh, it’s just another girl so that doesn’t count” is ridiculous if monogamy is involved. If one is single or in an open relationship, anything is fair. My take on your specific situation? Your friends are simply trying to convince you to make-out with them.
Just my $0.02
Julius Pleasar
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