Ok, So I have this little crush and don’t know what to do about it. I don’t even know if the crushee has a crush on me, though at times I think he might. Besides, I don’t even know if I am even willing, able or ready to date. What, oh wholly one, should I do?
This is tricky one. Normally if someone had walked up to me and asked me this in person, I would have posed quite a few follow-up questions in order to get a better understanding of the situation. I will, however, try to answer as best I can with the information given to me.
My initial reaction when I first read this was to tell you to wait it out considering you said you don’t know if you’re “willing, able or ready to date”. That could be seen as a red flag. It wouldn’t be incorrect, either. It’s not, however, the whole picture.
There are two parts to what you said, the first of which I’ve just mentioned—the unwillingness or inability. The second part to it, though, is the willingness and openness to the idea. If you truly weren’t willing or open to the idea, you wouldn’t have even considered the notion in the first place let alone written me an e-mail.
That said, I’m sure there are a number of variables to take into consideration. I can say at least that much with some certainty based on you questioning your willingness or ability to date. I’m sensing some fear, but I think it’s fear for what some might consider the right reasons.
The nice thing about a crush is that it can be very innocent. There doesn’t seem to be any reason for you not to indulge in it as such. Keep in mind, though, that there’s no need to rush anything. You will know when the time is right. In the meantime, feel free to be giddy when he’s around and enjoy the crush.
Just my $0.02